I am a trained integrative couples counsellor drawing on a variety of therapeutic techniques suited to you.

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There are many reasons couples seek counselling, below is a picture of just some of the issues couples bring.

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Conflict

Often couples find themselves in a pattern of conflict, arguing about anything and everything, not sure how they got there or how to change. In counselling we implement strategies to take the heat out of a relationship before taking a deeper dive into some of the unmet needs that trigger us, creating a dysfunctional pattern in the way we communicate. I will provide you with a toolbox of strategies to help you find healthier ways to engage.

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Disconnected

Feeling disconnected from our partner can be a very lonely place and it is sometimes so hard to know how to get that connection back. Couples counselling is a unique opportunity to explore what happened; where did we start to lose each other and how can we get that feeling of being a team in it together back again?

 

I will support you to talk, offering practical ways to rebuild connection.

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Intimacy

Intimacy issues are an inevitable part of any long-term relationship as desire ebbs and flows through many life phases, however, a discrepancy in intimacy can put a strain on a relationship and create misunderstanding. There are many reasons why intimacy can become a concern. We sensitively open up the discussion working though this complex issue, respectful of both partners.

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Affairs and betrayals

Any affair or betrayal within a relationship is devastating. Often the partner who has been cheated on is thrown into turmoil, whilst the other is at a loss to know what to do. This is a time of crisis, however, counselling can help find space to support this difficult time, recognising and holding the extremely painful emotions. Once both partners are ready, we can take a deeper look into the heart of the relationship as we move towards a pathway of hope and rebuilding. Often this can create a deeper bond.

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Blended families

The day-to-day impact of working with a blended family can put a huge strain on a relationship. Couples counselling is an opportunity to open up and talk about your perspective. When couples feel they are being heard, tensions ease and solutions can be found.​

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Separation counselling

For some couples, the relationship has come to the end of its road, but all too often couples split up without having an opportunity to find clarity as to where the relationship broke down. This opportunity can be so important and helpful in both moving forward and steering couples towards a more positive way of communicating post break up.

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What to expect

The first session is a way to find out a little bit about you both before we uncover some of the issues you are bringing. During the following sessions we take a deeper dive into the dynamic, before finding ways back to us. I encourage couples to commit to four to six sessions as a way to really start to notice change. That said, some couples come for longer, while others like to check in every few weeks. I am mindful of busy schedules and offer a flexible diary.

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* The approach is different in incidences of betrayal where the priority in the first few weeks is to find some stability in the midst of emotional turmoil.

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Please feel free to call me for a free 10-minute chat prior to booking.

 

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